The feeling of inferiority
At present day, it has become a trend among the youngsters to copy their idols throughout their life, copy their cherished personalities and celebrities and stand out in the crowd. The youngsters carry a belief that they might be looked down upon if they are not as good a personality as their idols. For some, these idols might be celebrities, for some it might be superheroes while for some it might just be a friend who is supposedly doing better than others. This gives a rise to the feeling of inferiority among them. The youngsters feel lost among the crowd when they do not get attention for being different.
This feeling of inferiority is making them lose self-confidence and zeal to progress in their life. They feel rejected from everywhere and feels like the world is closing up on them. if you are reading this, probably you might be able to relate this with several people around you as well. This feeling has been destroying the life of many.
Why do we feel that inferiority?
Ideally, every human being is different in his or her own way. Even an ugly person could leave a strong impression while a stuttering speaker could get people to applaud. The statement is not made to hurt the feelings of anyone but to emphasise the fact that every person has the ability to do some good. Moreover, it is not necessary to actually do any good to others. However, people have started considering it a responsibility to please others and keep others happy. A failure in doing so results in a feeling of being paralysed.
The main reason behind this feeling is our society, the people around us. There are situations where we often pick a person and continuously curse the person or make fun of the person. These situations occur on a regular basis with numerous people. Such a mockery or rejection faced by people among their own relatives, friends or colleagues result in that feeling of inferiority.
The feeling could be caused due to any possible reasons:
and numerous other points. There is no specific cause behind it. However, the impact of it is quite common and it is what led me to write this article.
Impact of feeling rejected or inferior
For every person, irrespective of age, gender or geography, this feelings brings about a negative change in the personality. The person gradually shrinks into his or her shell of beliefs and etiquettes. The person isolates from the external world to prevent from any more embarrassing situations. The overall impact of this inferiority is disastrous for the person’s will power. The person loses confidence in what he or she does and starts developing a feeling within that whatever he or she will do might not be liked by people around. They go into a constant loop of trying to please people and failing each time in it.
How to make it better?
Did you just relate yourself with such a feeling? Do you already know someone who might be shrinking into feeling shy about every little thing? It is extremely important for you to help yourself or help others who might be going through this. The basic reason behind this is that the person initially went through a phase which destroyed the self-confidence that the person held. The best way to recover confidence is to take assistance from people you trust, people who might spare a few minutes to understand you and feed in some confidence about what you do. In addition to talking to motivating people, try books too. Books often help you learn to adapt to adverse situations. Books are a great way to feel the reality in a virtual way.
The best way to repair the confidence is to get the praise and applaud you have always craved for. Usually, some friends or relatives come to your help for this process. The next step to take up is to introspect yourself, introspect what made others embarrass you. Try and improve yourself in those areas. Often it happens that people are not good enough to understand you which leads to such a situation. In such a case, back yourself up. Align yourself with what you really are rather than trying to please them and always remember what Eleanor Roosevelt has got to say 🙂
You break the barriers, make yourself confident again and understand that you are unique. Your life isn’t meant to please others, its meant to keep yourself happy. Also, if you are not a victim of this inferiority, understand that others might be! Lead a life that helps them recover from it and ensure a happy life for others too. A little good deed would be remembered and cherished more than a momentary fun or mockery.
Like the above quote says it, no one but you give the permission to others to affect you. Be strong and be firm to be yourself. You are unique and you need to praise yourself if none does. Learning about being a good person is certainly good but learning how to change yourself is never a good idea. To conclude, I would like to present a video that summarises these points quite well.