Life has been quite challenging for me through my career, I believe the reality has been same for you. In the path of this complicated social life I came across this really eye-opening video while browsing through social networks. It exactly conveys what is actually wrong with the life, what is changing it and how it has affected us.
Here’s the video
1. What is wrong?
So the question that’s answered is what is wrong – It’s the way that life is changing, it’s the way that people are adapting to the new way of life. The social network is eating up your real self. For some it is a medium to talk these days because they have started considering themselves introvert – Sometimes this is even true with me. Watching this video has actually made me realize where I am making the mistake, what is it that I am doing wrong.
These days sorrows aren’t for real. The moods are expressed in smileys hiding the real face from the opposite person. Life has become so virtual that we fail to express ourselves in person. The assumptions in life have increased way more and this is leaving the person nothing but hopeless.
2. Is there a way out?
I would say YES – There is always a way out. Get out of your virtual social world, Stop assuming what people would think, start facing the reality. Take a slap but speak up, let the person leave you but speak up – Don’t let your life be led by the assumptions and adaptations of the society. Live your life your way and allow the opposite person to do the same. Try to reduce the virtual interactions gradually and try to meet people in your life – Meet as many as you can, socialize and speak up what you need, what you feel. It might not be positive for all – Some might leave some might stay. But the silver lining here is that you will finally have the people who actually wanted to stay.
Everyone has a past, so do I and probably you too. Do not let your past cloud the relations in the present. Not all people around the world are really same. You will meet different people throughout your life. In your life, never lay down a presumption of a person’s image based on your past experiences. Not all people laugh at stupid jokes – some might laugh, some might ignore and some might curse you. Be with the ones you need. Make your choice of way of life. Stop acting on virtual platforms, start portraying yourself in real life.
3. Is it so easy?
What do you think? Is it possible to be easy? – I have personally tried and opened up myself. I have spoken up what I need, I have spoken up that I hate certain things but doing this has never been easy. Sometimes you are judged, sometimes you are supported, sometimes you are ignored no matter what you say. But how long would you really keep avoiding it? – There is going to be a time when you need to make it happen. Talking about my experience, expressing myself has helped me realize what I actually need. The virtual network had just made me want someone special with whom I could be one but the real life made me realize that it is not just one loving person that is important in life – It is the care and warmth of the opposite person.
You also might someday come to discover such truths of your life. May be you will realize that you had been following a completely wrong approach to get someone or something in your life. So get out of the virtual life and speak up. Life some real life before you end up miserable.
4. I don’t have the courage – I don’t know how to express
Yes, I came across people who told me that they don’t have the courage to open up, they fear they might be judged in an unjust manner. They felt they do not know how to express themselves. At this point, I would like you to ask yourself – Is it really tough for you to explain yourself or it is the fear of reality that is stopping you from doing it?
For most of you, the answer will be the latter. It is human nature and is absolutely normal to fear of consequences. However, if you don’t speak up, you are just making your life more miserable and disappointing. You might never really feel satisfied with your life. Life may not always surprise you with happiness – There are mixed emotions all around and Yes you need to adapt to it. Not all the days through your life ought to be smooth sailing. So gather your courage, talk to your friends, neighbors and any person that you can start conversation with. Talk to them about your life, about their life – Not all would like to open up like I said; So never mind if the talk doesn’t go well.
5. My experience
All through my life, I have opened up to quite a lot of people – I have expressed what I need, what was bad about my past and what I want the future to be like. There were people who responded positively and heard me, gave me some feedback and tried to correct my path. There were people who left me midway. There were people who said I have gone insane. I am writing this post being inspired by one of the recent experiences in my life. I finally met a person who took it positively and walked along, who might not be there for me always but has helped me realize my real self. I have a tendency of getting affected towards such a person pretty soon. This person made me realize that was wrong – It was just a craving that I had through my life which makes me feel affected. Today, I am writing this post thinking of the importance of that one person in my life. The person might not be in my life permanently but yes the person would have played an important role by then. The role of making me realize that life could be better by just spending some time talking out things. It makes me realize that all I needed was to share, to speak out and lighten my heart rather than any other desires.
To conclude, I would hereby appeal you all to open up, to live a real life, get out of the virtual world and face the reality. The life is way more beautiful in reality if you see it positively.