It has been almost 3 years of my professional career now. I have been into each and every trouble that a normal software developer or an engineer goes through in his/her life. During this journey, I keep coming across people, people from different backgrounds, people with different expertise, different expectations from life. Each person has their experience to share and I personally love to talk and interact with people to know about their experiences. One thing all professional associates say or face in common is – Job pressure, a new term, isn’t it?
Here, I use the term Job pressure for a specific reason. People don’t just suffer or face high burden of work, which we term as Work Pressure, but there are also other situations faced by every associate or employee in terms of his/her work life. To describe a few, a pressure to work better than others, a pressure to grow in your career, a pressure to get appreciation, a pressure to get a better job – All these pressures cloud up our life. One gets a feeling that its always us alone. This is what leads to the feeling of extreme demoralisation.
Is it really only me?
The thought that strikes and creeps into your mind ultimately ruining the way you feel about your job is that “You’re the only one going through this situation”. You start feeling alone in the situation. You feel you shouldn’t be expressing your grief or sorrow to people, you feel everyone is against you, you start getting irritated sooner than usual. These are all the consequences of Job Pressure creeping into your mind. So how do you handle it? What do you need to really understand? What could make it go away?
The sole purpose of me writing this article is to convey it to the people – to the corporate crowd that you are not the only one. Its not just you who suffers through these situations. You are not the only one who has too much of work all the time or the one who is not given the work or the one who is treated differently. There might definitely be an unbalance in work distribution amongst you and your colleagues. However, considering this as suffering or learning is ultimately depends on you. Even in my life, I have been through situations where I had no work to do and also the situations where I worked up myself. None of the situations ultimately made me happy. Gradually I realised that it is not the workload or peers that affect more, it is the attitude towards work and my logical approach towards it that really affected.
As you go further in your career, you’ll get tuned to it. You’ll realise how these ups and downs keep coming in career as well as life. The main point you need to understand is to keep smiling at what comes, face it well and remember that nothing is permanent. It is extremely important to have a positive attitude towards life no matter what comes.
How do I make it better?
Talk, talk to people who are more experienced than you, whom you think would have been through this stage of career, who has sufficient positive energy to cheer you up or make you realise that you are worried about something pointless. My usual experience says that talk is always a way out of things. Be it a man or a woman – Talking gives you an internal peace to realise that you are not in an exceptional situation and you need to keep calm. Talking to a person helps in 2 ways.
1. Getting it out is important
It is human nature to build around thoughts. One negative thought like “I am failing” – will be turning into a destructive thought like “I will be a failure throughout my life”. Speaking it out to a person who would listen to you and provide a genuine understanding about how it was a normal thing helps you block the thought process there itself. You start understanding that the failure might go off.
2. Learn from their experiences
Usually when you talk, you talk to people about what they have been through and how it changed through their course of life. This usually trains your brain to expect certain situations to come your way. You are ready with your armour waiting for the problems to strike you. Interestingly, you’ll see that the problems will come and pass by but won’t deter you since you were already prepared for them.
Thus, to conclude, I urge you to believe in yourself and remember that in every situation that you face, you are not the only one who faced it.